Take a Break and Love Better – P.S. I Love You
I understand. I'm on a break too. Me and my (ex) boyfriend have been together for a year and it seems like we cant go a week without arguing over something. We don't know if we're happy with the relationship that's taking up so much of our time, and we really want to know how the other individual. In my experience, I spent break periods crying and wondering what I had done wrong in the relationship. Zero time was devoted to thinking about my needs or.
Well, I admit the main reason was a mix between confusion and intuition. It all began when I started to feel attracted to other people. I started victimizing myself and I secretly blamed Michal for my challenging emotions — even if at a rational level I disliked the very concept of blaming.
Whenever I was faced with the responsibility to take charge of my own life, I would explode in anger and then melt in sadness, and repeat and repeat and repeat again. Although my affection for him never waned, my sexual drive was decreasing everyday. So you see what I mean when I say I was confused; the only thing I knew was that I wanted time to figure it all out, and for that I had to be on my own.
Take a Break and Love Better
My 3 Month Journey: Therefore I decided to combine this opportunity with traveling, quitting my job, and leaving the city where I had been living for over 2 years. I was really scared of telling Michal that I wanted to take a break.
We agreed that we would like to feel free to see other people during this time apart and for that matter, to do whatever else would suit our desires. We left it completely open, and today I am am really grateful for this decision. At first, being on my own felt incredibly challenging.
I felt terribly lonely; I felt so lonely that I hated every happy couple I would see on the street, and I wondered why in the world I had made this decision. However, the more I explored, the more I enjoyed being on my own, and the more I could see how precious this time was for me and how much I could learn from it. I connected with different people and I explored different places, flavurs, languages and emotions. I went on a 10 day silent meditation retreat, and after that I spent a month in Thailand.
I journaled a lot, and I made exciting plans for the future. I danced, I talked and I walked. I made last minute decisions, I fell in love and I explored different activities and routines.
However, the most important thing I did for myself was to take time to sit with my emotions, alone and focused, relearning who I am when I am on my own. But there was something different this time… there was fear.
Now that I had found how strong I could be when I was on my own, I was afraid to lose this and go back to being my old confused self. However, I soon realized that this fear was unfounded. We have been rebuilding our relationship since we met again, and I know for sure this is the best relationship I have ever had in my life.
Spending time away gave us both the chance to see our problems from a new perspective, and now we see each challenging moment as an opportunity to get closer to each other.
We both needed this time to think about our individual goals and plans, and it feels amazing to share them and see how compatible they are. Before I thought that being in love was enough, but now I know how important it is to me that my partner and I have common objectives and compatible dreams, and that we can work together to achieve them. However, after this experience, I see it as a gift to offer ourselves whenever the time feels right, and I definitely want to do it again.
There is an immense potential in spending time on our own: I see it as a beautiful supplement to the time we spend together — it gives us a chance to stay in touch with our individuality so that we can let it shine stronger in our relationship.
This is why I think it is really important to take some things into account when deciding to spend time apart from our lovers.Rules of Taking a Break and Getting Back Together
I created a list of ideas — some of them I have implemented, some of them I wish I had — that I definitely want to try in the future, whenever my partner and I decide to spend some time separately. See self time as a fun tool instead of a way to fix something that is broken. Being on my own is a gift that I choose to offer to myself. What makes us want to take a break?
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What is it that we want to gain from it? What can be challenging about it? Be completely open and honest. Mention that we all take breaks, little ones in our relationships, from going out with friends and watching our favorite Netflix series by ourselves. Being asked questions every day and all day can be very frustrating, it can make you think that there is no point in continuing the relationship because of being asked very intrusive and accusing questions.
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Having no support is probably one of the worst things to feel when in a relationship you care about. Be real with yourself always, first and foremost. Work towards new goals and spending more time together.
If you need time to think or sort your feelings and thoughts, sometimes a small break can really be the key to understanding your relationship dynamic. Talk about how you feel and be very open with each other, ask questions and learn together so you both can grow more as strong individuals. Communication is the key to a successful relationship. Taking a break because of this will feel hard and confusing, but two weeks of being apart can really end up giving you a final and very serious answer when it comes to what your options are with the relationships.
Talk it out, spend more time on yourself and with your partner. Try new things and talk to him about how you really feel.