We asked 19 couples who've been together 10 or more years to share the stories of how they met, and their answers will turn even the most. As online dating increasingly becomes the norm, children born out of Tinder relationships will sadly get less-than-romantic "How I Met Your Mother" stories. That's right: The majority of couples are making their initial connections IRL, as Though 59% of Americans see online dating as a great way to meet people.
The majority of couples are making their initial connections IRL, as friends, in places where they needn't worry about clever usernames or conversation-sparking photos. All of which should be comforting to those of us who aren't convinced that an app can lead to love. When it comes to meeting the right person, most of us are actually sticking to the basics — and it's working.
Trusting your friends' judgment: There's a reason a mutual friend is a trustworthy connector. After all, he or she is hanging out with both of you already. Chances are people in the same social circle share similar interests and values, which, despite the appealing adage "opposites attract," is proven to be key for establishing common ground early on in a relationship and maintaining it in the long run.
Jen, 30, was introduced to her future husband through a mutual friend, she told Mic. A study by Cornell University and the University of Indianapolis in found that people who met their partners through friends, family or their communities felt more supported in the relationship, a factor that can significantly impact how the relationship fares over time. Taking the pressure off: Meeting in a natural, social way is also less stressful. As anyone who's ever been on a blind date knows, you're much more relaxed when you're not psyching yourself up for what's to come.
Instead, walking into an assumedly non-romantic situation allows potential connections to flourish more organically see: We had lots of down time because I was constantly restarting the computer and we would chat about whatever.
We hung up with a plan to talk the next night because I had to get some antivirus software. He called the next night and same thing - talked for hours while he worked on my computer.
At the end I was really bummed because I thoroughly enjoyed talking to him. I just wanted to be friends with him. For the next five days I checked that email account, hoping he would contact me. He sent a simple email asking if my computer was working well still.
I responded, and from there we began chatting privately. In two weeks he sent me flowers. We met seven weeks later, when we each drove two hours to meet in between our two homes. We've been together ever since.
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We would take turns visiting every weekend for a year. We missed three weekends that whole year. Then he moved up to be with me. Advertising A photo posted by howwemetstory gmail. He photo bombed a picture I was taking with some girlfriends and then I said hey come here and I took a pic with just him!
We did not talk the rest of the evening, he left the establishment and so did I. We did not know each other, I just thought the moment was funny. A couple days later I posted the pictures and a friend of mine tagged him on FB and said "how do you know Mason?
He was cute and jumped in the pic!
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However the strange thing is we should have met way before now. We lived across the street from each other but never met. We were at a concert together 5 feet away and never knew one another, but he can point out where he was in a picture I posted! We were at the same theater showing of a popular movie on the same night, at the same time and there were 4 other theaters showing the same film. We both have chalked it up to the stars just weren't aligned for us yet, but now things are wonderful and for the first time ever I am saying "thank God for social media!
We both randomly went to a party at UMass Dartmouth. Neither of us went there, but we had friends that dormed together. We both lived in Massachusetts, but on opposite ends of the state, in towns that we didn't even know existed.
My friend and her friend both got drunk and disapeared, and we were left to ourselves. Brian's worst date turned into his best date. Is it awkward if he's staring? Ok, this is really awkward. But he was sitting next to another woman. Why would he be staring at me if he was with someone else? Maybe they're just friends.
The man of my dreams was now leaving with his date. The wedding planner who coordinates the ceremonies to celebrate everyone else's love, and yet, I'm alone. Twenty minutes later, I see him again. This time he's running back into the bar and B lining it towards me. Panting, he says, "Hey! I'm not sure if you noticed, but I've been staring at you all night while I was on the worst blind date ever.
He continued, "I just walked her home and had to come see if you were still here. We then spent the rest of the night walking around Newport and learning all about each other. Unfortunately, I found out that Florida was home for Brian, and he would be leaving to head back in 2 weeks.
Lucky for us, it only took one night to decide we would battle through the distance. Our magical movie-like night has since been topped by many incredible adventures together. He continues to be the reason I wake up every morning with the biggest smile on my face. Their moms had it planned since pregnancy. I would fall off my bike and scrape my leg and the next week he would randomly do the same.
I should have known how things would turn out. In high school, my family decided to take a trip to Westchester to visit Adam's family, and we instantly clicked. We became best friends and continued to talk all the time. During Senior year, Adam called me one day and asked me to go to prom with him. I couldn't have been more excited. I booked my plane ticket and before I knew it, I was on my way back to Manchester again for a weekend that would change my life.
Adam kissed me during the last slow song and it was then I realized we were meant to be together. We're both away at different colleges now, but our relationship is still going strong.
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We see each other once a month and are planning to move in together after we graduate. How my parents met each other: My dad picked my mom up while she was hitchhiking in California. They've been together for 40 years now. She put a permanent mark on his skin, and then a permanent mark on his heart. He told me the meaning behind it and also a bit about himself and I was intrigued. Six months later, we were both newly single when he messaged me about getting another tattoo.
It was a more extensive piece of artwork this time so we decided to meet at Starbucks beforehand to go over the design. I was running behind so I texted him and said, "I'm gonna be a little latte. The session was filled with intense conversation and awkward eye gazes.
Afterwards, I rushed out because my heart was beating out of my chest. I then texted him later on to see if he wanted to come to an art show with me. We fell in love fast and hard and were engaged 8 months later. I found my lifelong adventure partner through pursuing my passion. Their friends' wedding was dance floorshadowing. At the rehearsal dinner, Levi caught my eye immediately with his red hair and big smile. I introduced myself but spent the rest of the night trying not to seem too available.
During the wedding ceremony, Levi and I met on the dance floor and stayed there all night. The photo on the top was captured of us at our friends wedding, and the photo on the bottom is of us 2. We are just two dancing fools who are very much in love. I got on this new website called couchsurfing and posted a topic looking for recommendations of places to go and things to see. This girl responds by telling me Sweden is a pretty cool place and I crash on the couch at her place.
It is Sept I loathe communicating through email, but for some reason kept in contact with her throughout my travels. Four months later I ran out of money and left back to the states.
The Way Most People Meet Their Significant Others Is Probably Not What You Think
Around the same time she graduated and went traveling, for 7 months, through New Zealand, Fiji, Hawaii and Cali. Then almost exactly a year after she responded to my first post she asked if she could couchsurf with me in Oregon. We finally met on October 13th We got along great but it wasnt until she was set to leave less than a week later that we both began to realize there was something more.