14 Confessions From The One Who Used To Care Less | Thought Catalog
Texting is just one of the areas where people can show they don't care, where a Less people are finding themselves in committed relationships, and more are. Why does a person care less than the other about the relationship? Is it because they feel they get less from the relationship than the other person? That they. The Principle of least interest is the idea in sociology that the person or group that has the least amount of interest in continuing a relationship has the most power over it. In the context of relationship dynamics, it suggests towards which party the The partner who receives less has less incentive to continue the relationship.
Don’t Be The Person In Your Relationship Who Cares Less
See, sometimes certain beliefs and ideas, may resonate with us in a particular moment or particular context so we pick it up and make it a part of us, but before we know it, that belief subconsciously controls and dictates our thoughts, actions and behaviour.
Let me ask you a simple question. But think about this. If you were to truly believe that the person who cares less has the most power, what kind of relationship are you going to attract?
No, seriously it truly has some value.
If you find yourself always chasing after people, and falling into that pattern, then yes, perhaps believing in this may temporarily give you the momentum to break through and get out of that cycle. In my opinion, whatever beliefs you adopt in order to get out of that negative cycle, is a valuable belief.
See, this idea that the person who cares less has the most power is what I call surface thinking. This belief is what I call a surface truth. What you really need instead are deeper truths. Surface thinking unfortunately never get you anywhere, its like saying… All men just want sex.
Instead, it becomes a prison in which all your experiences are filtered through. So repeat after me.
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There are always deeper truths. To me, the deeper truths is where it really gets exciting. Because not only do you see that no one is really out there to hurt you, but you get to make sense of everything that happens around you AND the power that comes from this understanding. Because that is where all the secrets are.
Principle of least interest - Wikipedia
So what is the deeper truth here? You can never care too much… even when you first meet someone, even on your first date. You can never care too much. In fact, the more you care, the more power you have. Caring less is exhausting, and maybe caring more is too. But you created those exhausting rules for yourself, and you can always change.
In fact, you should want to. The walls that you have when you care less are not easy for anyone to break down.
You will miss out a great deal on people who could have loved you, and who you could have loved too. Not every love is supposed to last a lifetime but there are some pretty great people who you failed to get to know. You were too busy trying to be the one who cares less. Caring less means winning many battles.
Don’t Be The Person In Your Relationship Who Cares Less | Thought Catalog
But ultimately, losing the war. Yes, you will be the person who everyone seems attracted to, and wants to be around, because you come across as detached and cool.
But in the long-run, nobody wants to stick around for someone who is cool and detached. When you stop holding on so tightly to who you think you have to be in order to maintain a particular demeanor, you become much more free. On the contrary, it makes you weaker.