Rave about ISFJs - SJs (Guardians) - ENTJ Forum
So, I notice a lot of hate on the ENTJs in the relationship aspect for ISFJs. I just started dating an ENTJ, and I feel like it's going really well. This section ISFJ-ENTJ relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. In theory, ENTJ mesh best with the NF; however, I tried that, experienced the ups and downs, and have concluded that ISFJ is an extraordinary.
However all things considered over the long term these long discussions will likely end up with little more then a few casing points to help each others notions meanwhile breeding further problems in other areas by paying even less attention to their weaker traits ISFJs: An ENTJ will see this person doing things out of 'rule' and will likely have the natural tendency to advise this person on "the better method" this can seem like harsh criticism to an ISFJ.
If an ISFJ is confident and unaffected by this suggestion and exposed long enough the ENTJ may start to observe amazing practicality and efficiency out them in a way not typically known to the ENTJ, the efficiency of taking what is and making the best of it.
My personal experience associating with the common 5 types listed above is that I will be in agreement with them and it feels great but after spending hours talking and relating I have the sense of job well done, I feel left sitting there with nothing to improve and I feel a mental bond and friendship but not attraction. When I first noticed an ISFJ I was intrigued by them yet I couldn't help but to use my natural tendency and critique their free spirited practicality and I would sit their trying to give suggestions and meanwhile feeling like their was something to their methods.
So down to earth, so free of limitations, so practical and so emotionally sound. They are of a select few who are emotionally selfless conversely the ENTJ is thoughtfully just and fair.
Both these types love being creative and innovative, one free of emotional restriction and the other free of restrictions of how things should be done this can be a powerful bond and allow almost limitless potential.
They also care deeply for people again in different ways allowing them to be charismatic, funny, just and assertive people. Their are many things that these two will have in common and will both feel more complete as a couple. I find myself excited and thrilled to learn and so eager to understand and love how they do things. People who don't know the ISFJ well may see their unique way of life as a sign of carefree light-heartedness how I used to see itbut the ISFJ actually takes life very seriously, constantly gathering specific information and shifting it through their value systems, in search for clarification and underlying meaning.
I now find having a close ISFJ companion naturally gives me incredible emotional understanding, I feel so natural around them and even others when I have them in my presence. Rather then my mind having 'a few new facts' my mind starts working in emotional and intellectual harmony, when an illogical situation arises that can't be changed I'm not the least bit bothered I can make jokes about it and adapt positively.
They may feel Introverts are boring, or just disinterested in talking to them. Introverts may find that Extroverts are too loud and talk too much without listening to them.
An Introvert may feel neglected and unheard by Extroverts because they will only share if asked - and Extroverts usually don't ask. On the weekends, Extroverts enjoy heading out for social activities or other high stimulation activities to relax while Introverts prefer staying home or at the most have some quiet activity with close friends.
This difference in preference will sometimes lead to dissatisfaction.
ISFJ Relationship Compatibility With Other Personality Types
Sensing-Intuition Joys Sensors enjoys the insightful and brilliant Intuitive and seeing things from a big picture, strategic perspective relative to theirs. Sensors are also likely fascinated by the outlandish imagination of the Intuitive; with big dreams and visions.
Intuitives will appreciate the Sensors attention to detail in everyday living; Sensors bring Intuitives down to earth to common sense. While not true for all Sensors, Sensors dress themselves and groom themselves relatively well; this is something that Intuitives will appreciate and admire. Struggles May find it a challenge to have a common topic for discussion; Sensors enjoy talking about everyday happenings while Intuitive enjoys ideas, trends and theories.
These differences in interest may mean the couple may find little or no chemistry. Sensors are more past and present focused while Intuitives tend to be more future oriented; This means that Sensors will take references from past experiences and present facts to make a decision, while Intuitives are more likely to take into account future possibilities when doing so.
ISFJ & ENTJ - Duality
Sensors may find Intuitives' lack of interest in everyday living and managing household tasks to be frustrating; they don't understand why Intuitives are always 'in their heads', pondering about the deep things of life while they are the ones taking care of the duties of the household.
Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self. Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense.
The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions. Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler.
Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated.